Thursday, January 8, 2009

I'm Ready, Now What?

I wanted to send Congrats out to my cousin Tami's family~she & her husband welcomed a new baby into their family last week via adoption. This little baby girl is their 3rd child & the answer to their prayers of wanting to add to their family. We are so happy & excited for them here at the "Faith, Hope & Poop?" household & can't wait to meet the newest member of our extended family! When we were first looking into adoption, Tami is one of the people who we consulted about her experience & she was there for us during the ups & downs of our experience with Luke's adoption. She along with three of my aunts on that side have all adopted their children (my aunt's all did it via the foster care system) so adoption is nothing new to our family. I think that many people would find it to be quite an experience coming to one of our family things with all the mixes of races (my cousins) & strong personalities (my aunts! hehe). I've oftentimes wondered if my mom's mom & dad (Grandma & Grandpa) ever imagined that this is what their family would someday look like-I'm sure that they would not have expected to have so many additions to the family via adoption, but I like to think that they wouldn't have changed it for the world. Of their 16 grandchildren, 6 are adopted (via foster care) & as far as their great grandchildren, currently 6 (& 2 more on the way) are biological, 4 are adopted (via private/agency adoption) & 3 are step greatgrandchildren-it really does make for one very unique family!

All of this & the past holiday season have gotten me to thinking about my own family & I was hit with the realization that "I'm ready!" I want another little body in our house, another little someone to love & care for, another little baby to raise as my own...another child. Maybe it is because I am surrounded by family & friends adding to their families, maybe it is because I realized Luke is at the age I was when my first sister was born, or maybe it is just because I have so much love stored up inside of me to share with another child that we can't have on our own, but whatever it is I'm ready!

We've started doing all of the things that we need to do-updating our portfolio, contacting the agency, etc, but it all leaves me with many questions too...just because we're ready should we continue if Scott is out of work-is that really the smartest idea but shouldn't it also be a major priority if we are ready, then I ask myself 'but if we could get pregnant we probably would have been already when he lost his job so is that how we should be thinking', how long will our wait be before we have another child in our arms & how many expenses will all of this include, what if no one chooses us...along with a million & one others, but that's all part of the game & we've been here before so I am hopeful that years from now we'll be able to look back on this journey we call adoption with a great deal of wonder & respect & gratefulness for having had to it when we're enjoying our own 'unique' family someday!

1 comment:

Mama Bear (Angie) said...

What a wonderful story! We are in the process of adopting our 2 year old boy...via the foster care system. We have had him since the end of May last year, and we are just so thrilled with having him. We also have a 15 year old who is my biological son.

My husband and I have been married nearly 5 years now, and have tried to get pregnant the whole time, to no avail.

My mom and dad are foster parents, and they adopted a little girl who is now 9 years old. They've had her since she was 4.

So it just seemed natural that we would pray about adoption. And God led us very clearly down this road. We still hope to be able to get pregnant, but hopefully not until I have lost a lot of weight and am able to carry a baby healthily.

Even if we do get pregnant, we still want to adopt more kids. I don't know how many we'll end up with, but we know God does. We're grateful that He trusts us with these lives.

God bless you! I'm really looking forward to getting to know you better through The 15% Club!